You Can't Hurry Love

The Trials + Tribulations Of A Hopeful Romantic

Over my thirty-plus years of dating, I’ve looked for love in grocery store aisles, coffee shops, dating apps, dimly lit bars, and direct messages. More than once, I’ve found it in the right person at the wrong time. A few times, I’ve found it in the wrong person at the right time.

Whenever I start feeling romantic, a familiar song pops into my head: “You Can’t Hurry Love” by The Supremes. It’s a bright, friendly reminder. “You can’t hurry love. You just have to wait.” Why, Mama, whyyyyy?!

Then I remember Phil Collins and his 80s cover. Same lyrics. And yet I still hurry love.

I hurry love when loneliness gets loud. I hurry love when chemistry feels electric. I hurry love when hope feels urgent. My rationale is simple: If I don’t grab it now, it will disappear. In the process, I’ve mistaken attention for connection and momentum for meaning more times than I can count.

Sometimes I’ve searched in the wrong places. Sometimes I’ve met the right person when I was the wrong version of myself. Either way, my impatience has sabotaged more love connections than I’d like to admit.

I’m still learning how to be more patient. With myself and others. I’m still learning to love without hurrying. I’m a total work-in-progress, y’all. How about you, boo?

Keep calm and love on!
Clint 🌈✌️

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